Undressing Anger is like pealing onion ~ Unpleasant at first, but once revealed it ain’t so bad.
Yes, anger is banking on you not knowing what to do, what to say and what to think.
Anger loves the “what’s” that create confusion and chaos. But, with a little bit of know-how you can peal away at anger and undress its flame.
And it gets better!
All we have to do is peal away the onion and anger one layer at a time.
In this episode I share a pivotal moment for me when I “got” anger for the first time and eliminated the odor.
It all began, while researching on the cause and effect of anger and writing what is today known as the Response Curriculum. I came across an article written by Dr. Barry J. Nigrosh titled “Physical Contact Skills in Specialized Training for Prevention and Management o f Violence” which referred to the Fear of Loss of Self-Control as the generalized cause of anger and aggression.
Ah-Ha! I thought. That makes absolute sense, but what followed in that article from 1983 has stuck with me ever since –
- The attack or violent episode gives the person a brief moment of power and thus relief from feeling hopelessness.
- The person fears losing control, they feel power from the violent act, but it also stirs up an immense amount of anxiety internally.
With these two layers I began approaching anger from a whole new direction and no longer feared it, because it’s stink no longer stuck.
Listen to the full podcast here and learn how to use these two statements to undress anger in your own backyard.
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