Ep:20 – PT3 – Story – Warning Indicators

In basic first aid, “Look, Listen, and Feel” is part of every patient’s initial assessment. Using these same cues via The Feel, Look, Listen Approach as taught in the Response Curriculum, you can learn to observe warning indicators of potential conflict and act before Chaos gets a foot hold.

Read along with podcast host and author Ria Windcaller as she reads from her book:

Leading Chaos; An Essential Guide to Conflict Management

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Ep:19 PT2 – Story – Self Leadership

This is the Leading Chaos Story

Part 2: Self Leadership

An ongoing series where author and podcast host

Ria Windcaller

Discusses her Book

Leading Chaos; An Essential Guide to Conflict Management

What is the Burden of Conflict?

How can you Simplify Conflict?

PT2-Leading Chaos Story: self leadership

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Ep:18 – PT 1 – The Leading Chaos Story

Beginning with Chapter 1 – Simplify Conflict we read:

“I am and will likely always be a reluctant authority in the field of conflict management.” 

Leading Chaos; An Essential Guide to Conflict Management (2012) is available in hardcopy and eBook.



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Jeppe can mail you a copy from within the Netherlands. He works at Emergis a mental health organization that teaches the Response Curriculum as detailed in this book.

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Ep:17 – 12 True Tips for 2015

It’s always a new beginning

New beginning offers us the opportunity to well…start anew and celebrate success. These 12 Tips for 2015 are tried and true. Let’s get started with what we know and what we need to remember for leading chaos successfully into the new year.

Tip #1 for 2015 –  Be true to yourself. 

You know what it feels like from the top of your head to the tip of your toes when life is going well and you are being true to yourself. It is a visceral feeling of contentment. Use your body as your barometer. Is your neck tight, your back sore are you feeling sleepy? OR Are you feeling light on your feet despite your physical health?

Tip 2 for 2015 –  Be true to others. It is obvious no matter how good you are at “faking it – till you make it.”

Tip 3 for 2015 – State clear goals.

If you tend to say, “I’m going to go take that trip to the beach with my family someday.”

Try rephrasing the same goals as.

“I’m going to the beach with my family.”

Believe it, See it, Do it.

Tip 4 for 2015 – Be mindful of your impact on other.

Tip 5 for 2015 – Be mindful of others and their impact on you.

         When you visit a certain relative or friend, it can feel like your happy thoughts get sucked out of you?

– Maybe the next visit should be shorter?

– Visit with others to create a boundary.

– Surround yourself with people that are going to uplift you.

Tip 6 for 2015 - Create a habit of “Celebrating Small Successes”

Listen to the podcast and do the 15-second happy dance with me.

Tip 7 for 2015 – Embrace Quality

In actions

In service

As a standard

Life is short. Make it count.

Tip 8 for 2015. Reply to emails in a timely fashion

It will help you with time management and your contacts will adore you.

Tip 9 for 2015 - Take time to play a.k.a. re-ignite recess into your daily routine.

Tip 10 for 2015 – Stay hungry for knowledge

Life offers us an opportunity to participate. Make every moment count.

Check out Tony Robbins new book Money: Mastering the Game

Tip 11 for 2015 - Put safety first

I’m not a fanatic when it comes to safety unless it involves me, children, the elderly or someone who can not take care of themselves. Okay maybe I am a bit of fanatic. But hey, if you watch all those home videos on tv that make everyone laugh often they involved someone getting hurt. Ouch. I love a good laugh – when it isn’t at the expense of others.

Speaking of, Did you hear about the new night club on the moon?…find the punch line in the podcast.

 Tip 12 for 2015 – Accentuate the positive.

Probably now secret that this is easier to do than we think. Do it for yourself in 2015

 Life it too short to worry 

Happy New Year

Link to Tony Robbins’ Book

Money Master the Game

EP: 16 – My Interview of The Interview



Cyber-attacks, Political Strife, Social Media, #Hacktors and love of country.

Let’s find the silver lining to the ensuing mayhem in Sony’s Hack-Attack.

This is “My Interview”

#MyInterview went online December 25, 2014 at 3 a.m. Eastern Standard Time.

My Interview is an overview of the events leading up to the release of the major motion picture titled – The Interview. Let’s discover the pearl of cosmic wisdom aka “the silver lining” when chaos is contained and brought to order .

Humans are prone to imperfections. Thus is could be said that our foibles and fumbles are no less important than our successes. That is the beauty of being human.

That quality of imperfection shines brightly today and the event leading up to this moment reflect to us all the perfect imperfections of our global society.

When we fumble and specifically when we fumble together we can get mad, hysterical, and consumed by a mob mentality or we can choose to lead chaos and create order and safety for all.

During the bright sunny month of June 2014 in Southern California two propaganda super powers went head to head: Sony Pictures Entertainment and North Korea.

Sony Pictures Entertainment Inc. (SPE) is based in Culver City, California and is the American entertainment subsidiary of Japanese multinational technology and media conglomerate Sony.

The Pyongyang Government controls North Korea officially called the Democratic People’s Republic of Korea. It is a country in East Asia, in the northern part of the Korean Peninsula. Pyongyang is the capital and largest city. It is bordered by South Korea, China and a small section of the Tumen River also forms North Korea’s short border with Russia.

In June of 2014, The Pyongyang government  in a letter to United Nations Secretary-General Ban Ki-moon state that Sony’s movie “The Interview” is an “undisguised sponsoring of terrorism, as well as an act of war” The Pyongyang government promises

Here it should be noted that Sony Pictures Entertainment movie called The Interview starring, written, and directed by Seth Rogen and co-starring James DeFranco was written as a comedy about assassinating Kim Jong-un the 3rd Supreme Leader of North Korea.

Despite the Pyongyang governments promise of “decisive and merciless countermeasure” if “the U.S. administration tacitly approves or supports” this movie. Sony moves forward on working towards the release date of December 25, 2014.

Fast forward to November 24, 2014, precisely one month before the release of The Interview, when Sony’s internal computer system is hacked by “Guardians of Peace” (GOP). GOP displays their messages complete with a skeleton image, and the following message with #GOP

Warning: We’ve already warned you, and this is just the beginning. We’ve obtained all your internal data including your secrets and top secrets. If you don’t obey us, we’ll release data shown to the world.

Below this message are 5 links to zip drives of data that the GOP collected from Sony’s internal network.

On Monday December 1, 2014 The Federal Bureau of Investigation (FBI) launches an investigation into the GOP hack.

On Tuesday December 2, 2014 a public Pastebin file – pastebin is an online site where you will find anonymous posting included the spreadsheet containing the salaries of more than 6,000 Sony Pictures employees, including the company’s top executives.” The cyber attack also made public Sony employees’ names, job titles, home addresses, bonus plans, and salaries.

On Wednesday, December 3, 2014 Sony CEO Michael Lynton and co-chairman Amy Pascal— sent out the a company-wide memo that described the hacking as “a brazen attack on our company, our employees and our business partners”. Also on this same day The Interview’s actors James Franco and Seth Rogen’s paycheck for the movie was leaked.

On Thursday, December 4, 2014, employee notes are leaked decrying A-List actors mundane movies and a call to up the bar what they consider formulaic movies.

On Friday, December 5, 2014, hackers send a message to Sony employees telling them to support the GOP, “Please sign your name to object the false of the company at the email address below if you don’t want to suffer damage. If you don’t, not only you but your family will be in danger.”

 Saturday, December 6: “The Interview” actor James Franco hosts Saturday Night Live a satirical show produced by NBC. Says Franco,

“Something pretty crazy happened this week. I have this movie called The Interview coming out at Sony and this week Sony Studios got all their computers hacked… These hackers have leaked real personal information about everybody that works at Sony and I know eventually they’re going to start leaking out stuff about me. So before you hear it from someone else, I thought it would be better if you hear it from me. Soon you’ll know that my email is CuterThanDaveFranco@AOL.com. My password is LittleJamesyCutiePie — and this is all just a real violation of my personal life.”

During Franco’s monolog Seth Rogen comes on stage to telling Franco that both their phones have been hacked and private photos have been released. A few photos of silly antic of Franco and Rogen follow, like Rogen shown teaching Franco to read.

Sunday, December 7, 2014 North Korea’s government calls the Sony hack a ‘righteous deed and denies all involvement.

Tuesday, December 16, 2014 A note purportedly from the GOP, stated among other threats, “Soon all the world will see what an awful movie Sony Pictures Entertainment has made. The world will be full of fear. Remember the 11th of September 2001.

Later this same day, Sony told theater that they can opt out of their commitments to show the movie. Soon Landmark Theaters said it was canceling the movie’s New York premiere, scheduled for Thursday December 18th at the Sunshine Cinema in New York City’s.

Wednesday, December 17, 2014 US intelligence news states that the cyberattacks on Sony were state-sponsored.

Saturday, December 20, 2014 The US ask for China’s help in stopping North Korea to launch cyberattacks

Monday, December 22, 2014 North Korea loosest its internet connection for a blackout period of approximately 10-hours with only some government sites uploading.

China Unicom, is China’s state-owned telecommunications company that manages Star Joint Ventures, North Korea’s state-run Internet provider. Though neither China nor the US accepted responsibility for the blackout.

Tuesday, December 23, 2014 North Korea experiences a black out again – though shorter.

Sony announces that The Interview will show at independent and art theaters during the original release day of December 25th.

President Barack Obama welcomes Sony’s decision to release the movie.

What is the Silver Lining of the Sony Cyber-Attacks?

Tis best if you download the podcast to find out. While that is downloading…here’s a hint

It begins with you :)

Links to Hungry for Love


Ep:15 – Chaos Free Holiday Gifts

Having fun is Leading Chaos.

Leaders of chaos are all about keeping the holiday season Chaos Free and there is no better way than easy, affordable gifts. Find 4 affordable gift giving ideas in this episode.

 The wildly popular Gift of Chocolate is always a winning ticket throughout the year. So why not keep it easy and go with a winning ticket?

You can buy chocolate or Listen to this episode as I explain how to make a really…(and I mean really) simple chocolate that everyone will “ooo” and “ahh” over.

Get the recipe here for “Bark” a delicious and easy to make chocolate candy recipe for kids and the “kitchen challenged”. Thanks Martha Stewart for the easy to make recipe. I love it! “Wink Wink so good for you with those antioxidants keeping life Chaos Free!”

Second gift giving idea is a Gift Certificate to Amazon or iTunes for the tech savvy loved ones in your life. You know you would use that gift certificate. It is always a winner for teens and 20-somethings…especially if it comes with some chocolate.

While online why not gift a copy of my book Leading Chaos; An Essential Guide to Conflict Management. Also found in eBook. This is a great present for the teachers and emergency responders in your life that are interested in an easy protocol for managing conflict safely. It is available in hard copy and eBook and is both in English and Dutch.

The fourth and final gift idea is a gift that keeps giving.

First let me set the stage for this gift giving idea. If you have seen the movie, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory you all know how important it was to get a golden ticket. A golden ticket allowed the bearer to get into W.W.’s Chocolate Factory. Remember that song? “I got a golden ticket.” That is about the only line I remember, which is fine, because that is all you really need to know. With that premise you are well on your way to your own Shiitake Inoculation Party.

Instead of giving out golden tickets (much too expensive and gaudy) you hand out silver tickets this holiday season to all your loved ones (actually they look silver, but are really sheet metal business sized cards). On the ticket, you can etch with a pen “Shiitake”.

For my party I bought via the Internet (you will not find this at most local malls), wooden plugs of shittake spawn. Each bearer or bearers (like a family) of a silver ticket were entitled to 150 plugs of shittake spawn. Fungi spawn does not come in egg form. The plugs are pretty innocuous. I left mine in the refrigerator up till the day we had the party.

One hundred and fifty plugs will inoculate five 40-inch oak logs with thirty plugs per log! I sometimes harvest a pound per log during a good fruiting. In all, I had on hand 3000 plugs when I held my party.

Shiitake logs are indeed a gift that keeps giving. If you carefully tend to your mushroom logs you will get up to two fruitings per year, for 5-8 years depending upon the size of your log.

Is the stress beginning to melt away from your body yet? Perhaps this is a good time to pause and take a deep breath “In”, and now – “Out.” Good job.

All you have to have on hand this December are the silly silver looking cards. How easy is that? Now you will have more time to enjoy the company of friends and family or time walking your dog or just simply kicking back and slowing down.

Come the following March you can give every silver ticket bearer their 150 allotment of plugs or you can do like I did, have a Shiitake Inoculation Party. Why March? This gives you more time away from the holiday hustle and bustle, plus it is more temperate in March, especially if you live like me in the northeast.

The benefits of this gift plan are endless. Consuming Shiitake is good for you. Not only are fresh mushrooms unbelievably tasty (I took some on a business trip and cooked them up for a colleague of mind who I thought would spontaneously combust because the taste was so fantastic.) they are good for your immune system! What better way to combat stress then build up the good old immune system?

Word traveled quickly throughout my county when we held the Inoculation Party. The local hardware stores were selling out of 5/16-inch drill bits needed to make the holes for the shiitake plugs. Mushroom fever was taking over the town. The winter had been pretty snow free right up to a couple days before the gathering. Then a snowfall of 24 inches hit the ground. The soon proud to be Shiitake mushroom log owners were not fazed by a little snow. We inoculated over 80 logs that day!

A year later phones calls started coming in from the silver ticket holders, “We are cooking up our mushrooms right now as we are speaking”, “Uh, We have something growing on the logs, it is large. Are you sure we can eat it?” “We had a huge meal of Shiitake mushrooms last night. They were so tasty, I nearly swallowed my tongue.”

Three years later the calls kept coming in every time someone gets a fruiting. Those mushroom logs have gotten friends and family members who we rarely see, calling on a regular basis.

Cheers to a Chaos Free Holiday Season!

Find mushroom gift ideas here.




Ep:14 – Linda Holiday: Journey to the Heart of Aikido


“In this turbulent world, find what is true.”  Sensei Linda Holiday 6th dan and author of Journey to the Heart of Aikido: The Teachings of Motomichi Anno Sensei (2014).

In 1982, Linda Holiday founded Aikido of Santa Cruz, in California. She is the Executive Director and Chief Instructor of this nonprofit educational organization and dojo.

Linda began practicing of Aikido in California over forty years ago. In 1973 she moved to Japan living there for several years and receiving instruction from  Japanese Aikido teachers who had studied directly with the founder of Aikido, Morihei Ueshiba.

While there she met Motomichi Anno Sensei and began to studied with him.

Motomichi Anno Sensei & Linda Holiday Sensei

Motomich Anno Sensei & Linda Holiday Sensei

Linda translated into English the teachings of Anno Sensei into “Journey to the Heart of Aikido”. She takes the reader on their own journey into the world of training in a martial art that is non competitive, yet fiercely defensive and while at the same time teaching kindness and compassion.

Listen as Sensei Linda Holiday speaks about finding a practice that sustains one in turbulent times, helping to hone the skill of self awareness, breath and center.

“It is crucial to have a practice that you can go back to, daily or weekly, that continues to move you in a good direction and cultivate really constructive habits…Aikido is really great for that.”

I certainly hope you can take Linda up on the invitation in this podcast to stop in at Aikido of Santa Cruz and watch a class or take a class. And if that is not an option there are Aikido dojos around the globe. You can use your favoirte search engine to search for Aikido – spelled Aikido.

My tip would be to make sure that as you enter the door of a dojo for the first time you see and feel joy. Teachers of Aikido like myself and Linda are humans and as such not supreme beings. So make sure you choose wisely.

Short of that and Most importantly – seek a practice, as Linda says “that you can go back to, daily or weekly, that continues to move you in a good direction and cultivate really constructive habits.”

If you are interested in honing a very basic yet critical skill for centering when chaos comes knocking on your front door. Look to Episode 2 of this podcast titled: The #1 Leading Chaos Techniques We All Do Daily –- there I spoke in length about the value of breathing specifically the power of our Exhale.

And while on the here on leadingchaospodcast.com website your are welcome to sign up and receive the weekly newsletter on this podcast guest and topics.

There you find information about my conflict management model: Response Training Programs LLC – a crisis intervention curriculum model that at it roots integrates the philosophy of no opponent in every intervention. And a link to my book Leading Chaos; An Essential Guide to Conflict Management.

Links for Linda Holiday

Get the book: Journey to the Heart of Aikido



Linda Holiday Facebook Page

Facebook for Aikido of Santa Cruz


 There are many clips of Linda Holiday on YouTube. Below is one to get you started.


Ep: 13 – Hacker Caleb James Delisle: Creating or Leading Chaos?

Caleb James Delisle

If the word “Hacker” sends a shiver up your spine and a sense of insecurity, meet Caleb James Delisle, Hacker and Benevolent Dictator of “cjdns”, an encrypted Internet Protocol (Ipv6).

Consider the World Wide Web, a sort of “United Nations” in Cyber Land, where each country and indeed their government watches over our virtual landscape. One would think that in the age of internet terrorism having an internal watchdog is a good thing. Citizens seeking privacy though beg to differ.

Hackers are self appointed virtual government watchdogs asking if “they” (the powers that be) are doing the right thing. And yes, not all Hackers are benevolent.

Dark Net also known as Tor allows you to surf the internet without being tracked.

The Tor network disguises your identity by moving your traffic across different Tor servers, and encrypting that traffic so it isn’t traced back to you. Anyone who tries would see traffic coming from random nodes on the Tor network, rather than your computer. (from Lifehacker.com)

The question that stands out most often is, “Why hide your browsing or business on the internet?”

For Hackers, it’s all about protecting privacy and has nothing to do with creating a business to traffic drugs or child pornography.

Listen now to our conversation as we are taken into the world of a Hacker.

Want to know how to stay safe while using Free Wifi?

The following information is from LifeHacker.com to read the full article go to this link:


Here is an overview of this great article, by Lifehacker – no copyright infringement intended.

Go to your Settings:

1. Turn Off Sharing

In Windows: Open Control Panel, then go to Network and Internet > Network and Sharing Center, then click Choose Change Advanced Sharing Settings.

Turn off file and printer sharing, and network discovery and public folder sharing.

In OS X: Go to System Preferences > Sharing and make sure all the boxes are unchecked. Turn off network discovery, which will be in the same place.

 2. Enable Your Firewall

Windows – Control Panel > System and Security > Windows Firewall

OS X – System Preferences > Security & Privacy > Firewall

3. Use HTTPS and SSL Whenever Possible

Especially, when you are exchanging passwords for online buying or banking.

 4. Consider Using a Virtual Private Network (vpn)

 5. Turn Wi-Fi Off When You Aren’t Using It

LifeHacker details: How to Automate Your Public Wi-Fi Security Settings below and at the link above.

In Windows: When you first connect to any given network on Windows, you’ll be asked whether you’re connecting to a network at your home, work, or if it’s public. Each of these choices will flip the switch on a preset list of settings. The public setting, naturally, will give you the most security. You can customize what each of the presets entails by opening your Control Panel and navigating to Network and Sharing Center > Advanced Sharing Settings. From there, you can turn network discovery, file sharing, public folder sharing, media streaming, and other options on or off for the different profiles.

On OS X: OS X doesn’t have these options built-in like Windows, but an app like ControlPlane http://www.controlplaneapp.com/ can do a fair amount of customization. With it, you can turn on your firewall, turn off sharing, connect to a VPN, and a whole lot more, all depending on the network you’ve connected to.

Show Links



Hyperboria is the largest cjdns network, with hundreds of active nodes around the world.

 Chaos Communication Congress

Chaos Communication Congress. December 27th–30th 2014

4-day event that brings together software developers and hackers from around the world.

 More info on Chaos Communication Conference



Ep: 12 – Leading Color Chaos – Gail Callahan

Logos, websites, your business and personal profiles all require color. The right color choice will either make your brand pop or flop. I’m speakng to an authority on color in this podcast and sharing with you a simple tool that makes color selection easy for everyone.

It is often the simple tasks in life that feel the most overwhelming. Selecting color certainly can be easy some of the time and overwhelmingly difficult the rest of the time.

How many times have we each needed to select a color theme for a wall or room. The process should be simple…you grab a few color sticks at the hardward store and then go home hold it up to you wall and think, “okay, no problem”. You spend 40 to 50 bucks on a can (because good paint is worth it) and then go home. When you start painting you realize “Hey, this color doesn’t go with my red carpet and brown couch.What was suppose to be simple can turn into a totally stressful task. And worse yet you pick the wrong color.

Gail Callahan aka the “KangarooDyer” is the author of Hand Dyeing Yarn and Fleece, (Storey Press) and the creator of the Color Grid – an amazingly simple tool that takes the guesswork out of color symmetry.

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Gail provides us with a single tip that everyone can live by:

“Begin with the color that you like”

And then let the Color Grid help you find complimentary colors that make your choice POP!

 Listen here to this episode and find out how Tatoo artist to the Madison Avenue crowd use the Color Grid!

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Gail Callahan links

Color Grid

YouTube – how to use Color Grid


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Storey Press

Gail Callahan’s Books

Hand Dyeing Yarn and Fleece



Ep:11-Part 2 Creating Dialogue with a Chaotic Person

Creating Dialogue with a Chaotic Person


Part 2 of the Ongoing Series: Creating Dialogue with a Chaotic Person

In this episode we continue on the journey of building our skills in creating dialogue, specifically with a chaotic person. Dialogue is a give a take where each person is willing and able to listen and speak. A one-sided conversation, where one person does all the talking is not conducive to open dialogue.

 In Part 1 of this series (episode 009) I discussed the 1st thing I say to a chaotic person, which is “Thank you”.

What I didn’t say in Episode 9 is the step before I say ‘Thank you”. Listen now to the podcast (approx – 16 mins), as I discuss how to use the 3 steps below when beginning dialogue.

  1. “Excuse Me”
  2. “Thank you”
  3. Define the “Thank you”

Homework: What is a crisis validation? This type of validation will be covered in Part 3 of this ongoing series.

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This is a great navigation tool that goes beyond typical GPS tools – with a circular menu bar for finding Coffee, Gas, Food and more. Currently rated the number 1 navigation App on iTunes


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Thank you!